The more we try and fix things the more they stay the same. What does that mean? Quite simply this: we aren't broken so we can't be fixed. I've been gone a week, part of that week spent taking the Landmark Advanced Course in their fantastic series "Curriculum for Living". What a fantastic course. I highly recommend it to all of you, your children and families.
The more we try and fix things the more they stay the same is a very interesting concept in my business, because people want to change...how they look, how they feel, their tummies, arms, legs etc.etc...and we the trainers are more than happy to oblige...there's nothing we love more than to change you, teehee.
We want to be the Fairy Godmother or Godfather and turn you into a prince or princess with the wave of our wand. In the fairy tales being a Fairy Godmother/father seems so easy...they magically appear, wave their wand and everything's changed to the magical and so much joy is spread. There's no struggle.
In our real lives as trainers this hasn't been quite that easy, because they forgot to give us a wand and full control. When we say 'from this day forward you'll drink water and eliminate the use of alcohol and sodas' or 'from this day forward you'll cook all your meals and never again eat processed foods'....we're often mistaken for the evil stepmother and step sisters. Our charges may even become hostile and say: 'I want to change but I won't do any of that', breaking our little helpful trainer hearts and souls. We spend our lives side by side our Cinderellas and Cinderfellers trying to think of new and innovative ways in which to help them listen and adopt into their lives the incredible information we're privvy to. What a waste it turns out. In fact, there's no need for struggle. Yes, imagine that, there's an easier way.
It turns out we're having the wrong conversation with ourselves because we're living into a future we've already written for ourselves (default future)...and this future and conversation drive our actions. There's no resisting this....you know the saying 'whatever you resist persists'. So, trying a whole bunch of diets for instance doesn't work because it's the same person (same mindset) trying different diets....to change eating habits or any habits you have to rewrite your future and then you'll automatically live into it, because your actions will naturally shift to accomodate the new future. The beauty of this system is rewriting your future automatically removes the problem. How great is that!!!
So, the healthy lifestyle habit today is: Either sign up for the Landmark Forum, buy the book The 3 Laws of Performance by Steve Zaffron and Dave Logan, or see me and get busy rewriting your default futures, so your wandless Fairy Godmothers/Fathers can help you achieve your dreams.
And by the way, I'm back to blogging...fell of the horse and am getting back on, teehee...so brace for the ride and advice...this is the best about this job...yell and nag, and give 'helpful' advice and get paid for it....could life be better, haha, specially now with the new default futures??!!!
This picture's of me during the second half of my week away...visiting Zappo's in Las Vegas (what an incredible company and experience of the future of corporate culture...I'm a huge fan) when at my mastermind with Adam Urbanski (a fantastic mentor, check him out)..didn't know then I would be writing of Fairy Godmothers and other Tales, teehee....
